Read and annotate your book for chapter 3. Then answer the following questions in your own words – do not copy sentences from the book. You get points for this activity by simply doing your best. We will discuss these concepts further in our groups, so you will not lose any points if you make a mistake. Answer each question thoroughly – at least 3 sentences or more.
1] Gottman says, ” You can become a collector of emotional moments by consciously looking for opportunities to connect with others” (68). What does he mean by this and why should we do this?
2] What is a harsh set-up and what is a soft start-up to a conversation? Gottman would say we should do __________ because _____________.
3] What is the difference between a harmful criticism and a helpful complaint? Write a harsh criticism and then change it to a helpful complaint.
4] What is emotional flooding? What can we do if we become flooded to help?
5] Think about the last time you were really upset with a friend or family member.
A. What was the argument/upset about – actual fight about trash being taken out, dishes being done, etc?
B. Now think about why you were upset. What were your / your friends/family member’s needs? Look at age 77 and pick 2-3 words to show real needs.
C. How do you think you can have had that conversation better with knowing the needs?

6] What does Gottman mean when he says we sometimes avoid a conversation we need to have? What are the results of not having the conversation? What can we do instead of avoiding?
21] Review the lecture on the Perfect Paragraph and then use the outline below to create body paragraph #2.
Remember that your paragraph is a minimum of 10 sentences. Each of the sentences is outlined below. Each sentence must be a complete sentence with a subject, verb and complete thought with a period at the end.
Put your paragraph into correct paragraph format. If you don’t know what that is, go to modules and click on writing samples, and I have a sample called paragraph format to help you.
Body paragraph #2 is about 3 different mistakes you make when receiving bids
Context is the information you give before the quote that helps the quote make sense. The minimum context is the author states or Gottman tells us, something like that.
Body Paragraph #2 outline “ mistakes receiving bids from . Gottman, the author of the book The Relationship Cure

Transition + Create your topic sentence to include the three issues you have when receiving bids to others.
Transition + main point 1 sentence: Your first mistake receiving a bid
Context + Quote from text supporting the idea of this kind of mistake
Explanation of the quote in terms of your mistake
Transition + main point 2 sentence: Another mistake receiving a bid
Context + Quote from text supporting the idea of this kind of mistake
Explanation of the quote in terms of your mistake
Transition + main point 3 sentence: Your third mistake receiving a bid
Context + Quote from text supporting the idea of this kind of mistake:
Explanation of the quote in terms of your mistake:
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Review the lecture on Academic Personal Narrative Paragraphs and then use the outline below to create body paragraph #3.
Remember that your paragraph is a minimum of 10 sentences. Each of the sentences is outlined below. Each sentence must be a complete sentence with a subject, verb and complete thought with a period at the end.
Put your paragraph into correct paragraph format. If you don’t know what that is, go to modules and click on writing samples, and I have a sample called paragraph format to help you.
Body paragraph #3 is about your personal story of avoiding a bid buster.
Body Paragraph #3 outline “ your personal story of avoiding a bid buster. Gottman, the author of the book The Relationship Cure

Transition + topic sentence: Agreeing or disagreeing with the authors main idea that through avoiding bid busters, we can lower conflict or improve a tense situation because of your personal experience of …
Explain the experience in vivid detail: Using transitions to move through time, tell us the story of what usually happens with this person and what you did to avoid a bid buster in a tense situation this time. Include

Who?
What?
Where?
Why?
When?

Transition + main idea sentence stating if the technique you employed worked or not and how this supports or negates the authors claim.
Context + quote from text that speaks to your main point.
Explanation of why you believe the technique worked / didn’t work/ or will work in future .